I once read something along the lines of ‘if you expect other people to be nice to you because you’re nice… that means you’re actually not nice’
It really made me think and question why I was nice. I actually felt terrible because I DO expect people to be nice in return. But does that mean my nice is fake? Have I been fake?? I seriously was devastated. But I know that I’m not fake and why am I letting this stupid quote from instagram get to me??
What the f is wrong with expecting nice in return?
So a few days go by and still this is in the back of my head as I interact with fellow humans and it came to me!
That ‘A-ha’ moment!
In the midst of a conversation with a person who is known to be a bit of a narsasstic I realized that while she was making snarky comments I was still being nice and trying to direct the conversation to a more positive direction.
Was I afraid she was going to say something mean to me? Nope, last time I checked I have my big girl panties on. I can handle it!
I realized my instinct to be nice during one of her little rants was because I felt a glimmer of hope. I’ve seen her in a vulnerable state before. She was one of those ‘my back is always against the wall and I’m coming attacking’ people to every damn situation & person in life. But I’ve seen a bit of her kind & compassionate side. A side she doesn’t always share with the world. She put down her walls for a split second and I saw a vulnerable person just looking for a little love and understanding. Behind all those snarky, condescending and negative comments there really is a heart in there.
And that’s why I choose to reply with nice. Not because she owes me nice. It’s not tit for tat. But because deep down I know my nice will eventually beat her down and she’ll realize that not everyone is out for her. It’ll eventually bring out her nice side. And you know what? It’s working!
And it feels so damn good!
So ‘f’ you instagram quote! 😋